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Danas15146
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03-31-2004

Monday, August 30, 2004 - 9:52 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
The gestational diabetes test is gross! With my first - I drank and got sick all over the doctors office. With my second (and a new doctor) one of the nurses found on the internet that if you ate a certain number of Jelly Bellys an hour before the test - the result was the same so they let me do that! Anyone else who needs to take that test and can't stomach the drink might want to check with their doctor to see if that is an option.

Kimmo
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05-02-2003

Tuesday, September 07, 2004 - 2:05 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Apparently, the baby is a girl! :-)

On the breastmilk subject-- We were playing the other day and Rowan suddenly broke out with, "I want to drink milk from your breasts!" Then he started laughing, I'm sure he was joking (we did that kind of joking after we first stopped)-- He is all about pushing buttons and shocking me right now.

The last time I did a blood sugar test, they gave bottled sugar water, but when I had Rowan, they gave me a big cup of orange juice. I prefer the juice! It seems like I'm not gaining very much, but I don't think I really started gaining until the last 3 months, so I have a month or so to go.

Potty training is going really well, now that we got a stool big enough for him to rest his feet comfortably while sitting on the toilet-- Safety First potty seat (it's yellow, blue-green, white, with a lid and nice cup with a handle that comes out for dumping). We had an "Especially for Kids" brand since May that he never used, I wonder what it would have been like if we'd had this brand at the start. At least we would have had a bigger stepstool! Or maybe he just wasn't ready yet.

Starting preschool this week where they reinforce the training should also help. Yay!

Enbwife
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08-14-2000

Wednesday, September 08, 2004 - 12:27 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Congrats Kimmo on your baby girl. Very exciting!! I'm taking Friday off and probably Monday to start the potty training weekend marathon. Wish me luck! I bought 10 pairs of big boy underwear and pringle chips (yes I resort to rewards sometimes) and we will have big celebrations every time he uses the potty. I won't use diapers at all except for naps/bedtime. I'll keep you posted on how it's going. :-)

Kimmo
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05-02-2003

Thursday, September 09, 2004 - 12:03 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Good luck, Lisa! I haven't thought about using rewards yet, but a mom at work said she gave her son an M&M each time he used the potty and actually did accomplish the potty training in one weekend.

I'm too chicken to use the big boy pants yet-- I'm going to wait until Rowan wakes up dry regularly. We read "Going to the Potty," which bascially says you get the real pants after you're a pro at going on the potty ("able to stay dry most of the time"), which we aren't yet, so I don't want to contradict the book.

Danzdol
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04-21-2001

Tuesday, September 14, 2004 - 9:08 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
wow! potty training. I am not getting into that one just yet!

Dylan has been in his new big boy bed now for 1 week!!! He wakes up here and there and cries. I come lay down with him until he falls asleep and then return to my bed. He is happy in the morning and seems to enjoy that he can now just climb out of his bed on his own when he is ready. Sometimes he stays and still talks and plays for a while before actually exiting. It's so cute!

School is going better. He is now going M-W and F part time. He is down to crying only the first half. Then they go to the playground, lunch and play and he is happy for the last 2 hours. It's better then crying 4 hours straight!

Danas15146
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03-31-2004

Tuesday, September 14, 2004 - 9:50 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Lisa -- how is the potty training going? We used the "reward" system too. Used swedish fish and the only time the kids got one was when they went on the potty. To this day they both still call them "potty fish".

Enbwife
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08-14-2000

Tuesday, September 14, 2004 - 11:25 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
I'm in potty training hell!!!!! It's been awful! It's Day 5 and I'm soooo happy to be back at work. We've been at home since Friday doing everything every book says to do and it's not working. I think we jumped the gun but Neil still has hope and took today off to continue the mission... I wonder if he'll still feel that way when I get home this afternoon. :-) I've tried stickers, pringle chips (call them potty chips), underwear, everything and Nate refuses to sit on the potty. He'll sit sometimes if I bribe him onto it, and always pees. But if I ask him if he has to go he says "NO" immediately. It's such a battle and I think we're all totally stressed out. Neil thinks we should give it until Sunday before quitting. I know that it's not going to happen overnight but really expected more progress than this in 4-5 days. Maybe I set myself up for disappointment. I'm taking tomorrow off and Neil's off Thursday to continue on. There has been some progress, i.e. he'll now hold his pee for up to 2 hours - I took him to Starbucks yesterday in underwear and shorts and he stayed dry the whole time. I worry that if we give up now we may undo what we've done the past 5 days and we went through 5 days of hell for nothing - then will have to do it all over again (yuck)!!!! Urghhhhhhhhhh - I'll keep you posted. Thanks for the support.

Danas15146
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03-31-2004

Tuesday, September 14, 2004 - 11:46 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Hang in there -- it gets better! Instead of asking if he has to go - did you try just every hour or so saying "Let's try to use the potty". I know some parents who just let their kids run around naked and say that after a couple "accidents" the kids used the potty because they didn't like the pee running on their legs. I was never brave enough with my carpets to risk that one though! Good Luck!!!!!

Texannie
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07-16-2001

Tuesday, September 14, 2004 - 12:10 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
It sounds like he isnt' ready. You really can't 'do' anything. When they want to and are physically ready, they will learn how to go on the potty. Be very careful that this doesn't become a control issue, cause the kid will win! LOL

Mocha
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08-12-2001

Tuesday, September 14, 2004 - 12:21 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
I would throw out the books because every child is different and I've never like using books for child rearing but that's just me. I preferred asking the older women I worked with and relatives and the doctor. Do you happen to have one of those seats you can put on the toilet? These worked with my boys because it was more real and grown up.

Enbwife
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08-14-2000

Tuesday, September 14, 2004 - 12:43 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
I've changed the words to "your potty is waiting for you when you're ready" and "mommy will help you use the potty". It's always an automatic "NO"! We have the seat that goes on the toilet and the potty seat that we can move around. He goes bare-bummed (we pulled up all our area rugs and have hardwood - they've never been so clean). He doesn't seem to care that pee is leaking down his leg. When he has an accident in his underwear, he walks like he just got off a horse and that seems to bug him more. I think this has already become a control issue and we need to just let it go and let him take the lead.

Zachsmom
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07-13-2000

Tuesday, September 14, 2004 - 12:48 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
I waited until Zachary was ready, not when I was ready. They will let you know. When Zachary was ready, there were no accidents, there was no struggle. I say stop, and let him tell you when he's ready.

Hippyt
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06-15-2001

Tuesday, September 14, 2004 - 1:13 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
I agree he probably isn't ready. I had a heck of a time with Griffin too. I finally just gave up and let him lead. One day he saw an episode of the Rugrats about going to the potty and boom! That was that,he wanted underwear and we were done!
I also think boys are harder to train for some reason.

Kimmo
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05-02-2003

Tuesday, September 14, 2004 - 1:19 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
I agree, it just sounds like Nate isn't ready. I haven't been forcing it, either. Though it is shocking that for 2 weeks Rowan consistently went to the potty every morning and most afternoons, and now this week he doesn't want to go-- Until it's bedtime and I'm about to leave the bedroom!

It's frustrating to know that he can use it and is choosing not to. He is doing the same thing (refusing to go potty) at school now. I just pray he chooses to go potty by the time the baby is born!

When I first tried no pants, maybe 3-5 months ago, the first thing Rowan did was go, "Now I can pee anywhere!" Then roamed around intent to do so, with no intention of actually going to the bathroom. Ack! I just thought, "Well, obviously not ready," because that was on top of a couple months of "We only go potty in the diaper or the bathroom". I only tried no pants 2 times because of that! I wonder if no pants would work now.

I have also been asking "Do you want to go potty?" I should go back to my tactic for other stuff, like Dana said-- "It's time to go potty," or "Let's try going potty."

Julieboo
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02-05-2002

Tuesday, September 14, 2004 - 1:46 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Personally, I think he is too young. I waited with Ryan to give me some idea when he was ready. And that was not until he was over three.

It's not that big of a deal to wait. At least I didn't care if he was in diapers til three. And you don't want to pressure him with it, it could really end up delaying things...

Teachmichigan
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07-22-2001

Tuesday, September 14, 2004 - 2:17 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Sorry, I'm no help on the "is he ready" question...but I can say with complete certainty that potty training boys can take MUCH longer than 4 -5 days. Our DS was 3 1/2 before he was trained...and it STILL took almost an entire summer! He always woke up dry and was willing to go in the morning, but the rest of the day he didn't want to be bothered! That "wet" feeling when I put real underwear on was finally "it" for us....but who knows what it will be w/ your son!

GOOD LUCK! This is always harder on the parent than it is the kid! LOL

Kimmo
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05-02-2003

Wednesday, September 15, 2004 - 1:09 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
To break from potty training talk-- Danz, how exciting about the big boy bed! Is it a toddler bed or regular size? Does Dylan ever fall out of bed? We are moving to a new house and will be getting a bed for Rowan then. It will probably be a regular bed since we will need the crib mattress in the crib for the new baby. I just feel bad because he seems so content with his crib.

That's good to hear about the daycare, too. It's a big change, how long has it been since he started? It sounds like he's doing well. :-)

Enbwife
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08-14-2000

Thursday, September 16, 2004 - 7:58 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Thanks for your input everyone.

When I got home from work on Tuesday, significant progress was made. Neil and Nate had a great day together with few accidents. I realized I was probably nagging too much so changed my approach to much more relaxed. Got some M&Ms in the house too and yesterday he used the potty every single time he had to go including a huge BM at noon!!! I took him out for a walk after nap, then played in the backyard and no accidents. It was amazing... I'm not going to get too hopeful yet, what's going to happen will happen, but I'm hoping we're on a much better track than earlier this week. Neil is home today, and I'll be home tomorrow. We'll decide which direction to go on Sunday. Baby is due in 9 weeks so our thinking was get this done now so it's established by due date. Didn't want to do it too close to the birth day.

Danz - we're not going to move Nate to a big boy bed until way after baby comes. Don't want to do too much change too soon. Does Dylan get up in the night and wander the house? That's my fear. Also, I fear he will give up his nap when he can just get out and go (although he can crawl out of his crib easily without getting hurt already).



Danas15146
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03-31-2004

Thursday, September 16, 2004 - 8:20 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Hope that everything continues to go well. Even if you have success now - expect some set backs after the baby comes.

A suggestion for the big boy bed -- we got a prize bag and filled it up with stickers, matchbox cars, just little stuff. Every night that Justin stayed in his bed we let him pick a prize the next morning -- really helped out. How old is Nate? You may want to put a baby gate at his door just to make sure that he can't get out of his room and hurt himself.

Zachsmom
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07-13-2000

Thursday, September 16, 2004 - 8:29 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Enbwife, just a little heads up, Nate "might" revert back after the baby is born. That happens sometimes with kids after major life events. I am not saying it will, but it might. Glad things are workingout better.

Enbwife
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08-14-2000

Thursday, September 16, 2004 - 12:51 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Nate just turned 2. We hear they may regress after baby comes. Just trying to gear him up (but not too much) for baby sister. Reading books and talking about how much we love him, etc. We will definitely have to use a gate when we move him and I like the idea of the reward. Seems to work for our little guy.

Jmm
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08-16-2002

Thursday, September 16, 2004 - 10:01 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Lisa, The only thing I would caution about the baby gate is to make sure that Nate doesn't try to climb over it. Little ones have been known to get hurt badly when trying to climb out. We had this problem with our ds. What we finally had to do was put an alarm on his door so that we knew when he left his room at night. We bought one of those inexpensive burgler alarms that use a magnet. When the door is opened and the magnets no longer touch, the alarm goes off. It let us know when he was coming out of his room and usually he would scurry back to bed as soon as it sounded.

Jmm
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08-16-2002

Thursday, September 16, 2004 - 11:50 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Another thing I'd like to suggest for those of you with little ones moving out of cribs and into "big kid" beds is an additional lock for each outside door. These locks can be found at Wal-Mart or just about any home store, they are very inexpensive (about $2.00 US) and can give you a wonderful peace of mind. Install a lock on each door high enough that the little one can't reach. They're very easy to use but you must raise the front plate to flip it back from the door. Most small children just do not have the dexterity it takes even if they climb on something to reach it.

xx


Skootz
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07-23-2003

Friday, September 17, 2004 - 3:40 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
We have a lock on our dd door. It is just a little hook. We do this for a number of reasons..one of them is just outside her door to the right is a large set of stairs down. I am afraid if she woke up from a deep sleep and wondered out of her room in the middle of the night, she may stumble and fall down.

Another reason is to keep her in her room. She never tries to leave because she know it is closed. She is over 3 and is trained, however we have a little potty in her room if she needs it. Also, she is in there after lunch and now most time she does not sleep, but she is able to play on her own with some toys, books that are in the room and she just had "quiet time" by herself. I think it is important for them to learn to play by themselves and not always having to be with someone else.

I kept my first dd in a crib when I had my second. I just purchased a second hand crib until she was ready for the big bed. When I had my 3rd daughter, my second was already in a big bed as it was safer for her because she kept climbing out. At first she was afraid to get out of the big bed as it was too high for her. I also have a bed rain on my kids beds so they don't fall out.



Julieboo
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02-05-2002

Friday, September 17, 2004 - 5:45 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
I am not so sure locking a kid in is so safe. Just make sure that you couldn't get locked in by accident or that there wouldn't be a problem in case of a fire, or if the kid needed help in the middle of the night.