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Ddr
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08-19-2001

Thursday, February 19, 2004 - 4:54 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
I had a small intimate wedding in a small church in the next town. Only immediate family attended the ceremony with a small reception (approx 50 people) at my mother's home. Only closest friends and relatives invited to reception. Fresh champagne colored roses in crystal vases adorned the home and we served mimosas and beer. Food catered was items hubby and I enjoyed. We played soft classical music in the background so people could visit and enjoy each other's company.

I was adamant about having no shower which I thought was a silly idea. I was 27 and he 34 and had been living together for 2 years. We had all the housewares and appliances we needed. I threatened all my friends that I would walk out of a surprise shower (did that for a baby shower too.)

Texannie
Member

07-16-2001

Thursday, February 19, 2004 - 5:01 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Holy cow Tabby!!!!!
I had a fantasy wedding and reception. My hubby and I will celebrate our 20th wedding anniversary March 10th and we still talk about how wonderful it was. We got married in dh and mine's church and then the wedding reception was at my parent's home. We had around 500 people at the reception. The food was just wonderful... lobster, shrimp, beef tenderloin, other stuff including guacamole and chips (my husband's one request!!). 7 violinists played on the balconies overlooking the pool and living room. For some reason people kept giving us things..someone gave us an ice sculpture, a new bakery gave us our wedding cake...it was HUGE! I just sat there watchng them build it. It really bordered on tacky, but it was amazing. My mom and I did spend alot of time telling people the cake was a gift! It was wonderful to have the reception there cause it was relaxed and we didn't have to leave when the time was up. We stayed till 2 am! Our help made up a big picnic basket of food and wine for us to take to our hotel and we had a picnic in on our bed!!
My mom organized everything herself...the staff, the food, the decorations!! She was just amazing! And the truly amazing thing is that she hated big weddings, hated the production of it all, couldn't imagine why you just didn't take that money and buy and house, and yet, she put all those aside to give me the wedding of my dreams!!

Tabbyking
Member

03-11-2002

Thursday, February 19, 2004 - 5:02 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
rut roh, i cleared the board.
c'mon, the chances of any more of us marrying people who were weathermen and wanted for making bombs that went off in village brownstones that killed 4 people....are pretty slim, right?!

Tabbyking
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03-11-2002

Thursday, February 19, 2004 - 5:07 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
last post on the anulled wedding--when i was in the e.r., thank God the doctor pulled the curtain around. all of a sudden i heard "ted" screaming, "i cut my f'ing hand!" and my friend grabbed the doctor's prescription pad out of his hand and wrote on it, "that's the husband!!" and the doctor went to 'ted' and said, "it's halloween, we are completely busy; you should try highland hospital in oakland."
just like in a slasher movie, when i crawled into the bathroom and ted could not break down the door, he went around and came through the bathroom window. he had cut his hand.
okay, you have to wait for the book or the movie for full details! but i was saying the 'hail mary' over and over, especially the part about "now and at the hour of our death, amen."

Tabbyking
Member

03-11-2002

Thursday, February 19, 2004 - 5:11 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
okay, the last wedding! i promise you all, it's much better!
we married at lake tahoe and then had dinner at harrah's. 6 weeks later we had the pig roast. mai tais and leis and tons and tons of food. the party lasted 2 days! everyone on his side of the family loved me and everyone on my side loved him!
my wedding dress cost 29 dollars. the minister was named reverend hruby (pronounced 'ruby') and the more he talked, the more southern his accent he got. video shows me biting my lips to keep from busting out laughing!

Goddessatlaw
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07-19-2002

Thursday, February 19, 2004 - 5:14 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Sorry, Tab - I'm in the middle of my swizzle-stick impersonation.

Tabbyking
Member

03-11-2002

Thursday, February 19, 2004 - 5:15 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
when you are doing the impersonation on a full-size pole, let me know.

Tabbyking
Member

03-11-2002

Thursday, February 19, 2004 - 5:16 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
oops! i meant as in pole dancing, not colossus becoming full size......oh, never mind. a mother should not know these things!

Mak1
Member

08-12-2002

Thursday, February 19, 2004 - 6:22 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Holy crap, Tabby! You're making me gasp, shudder and laugh all at the same time. I'm just going to keep reading Ddr's and Texannie's beautiful stories until I can calm down. I can hardly wait to read the book and/or see the movie!!

I really came here to say our DD#2 is getting married October 15, 2004 in Cambria CA. They are getting married on the beach (sort of, but not too, casual dress). The wedding party and parents will be renting beach houses to stay in during the week. It's really exciting and we're happy for her, but she's too darn far away!

Tabbyking
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03-11-2002

Thursday, February 19, 2004 - 6:29 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
mak1, let's just hope for no 'earth shaking' at that time! cambria is beautiful!!

Tabbyking
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03-11-2002

Thursday, February 19, 2004 - 6:36 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
wow, you are coming from maine to cambria?! how cool. you will make time to go to hearst castle, right? or some of the wineries in the area.

Mak1
Member

08-12-2002

Thursday, February 19, 2004 - 7:10 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
We sure are crossing the continent! I'll tell the happy couple to be sure to pick a non-quake time of day for the ceremony. Future SIL told me I'll love Cambria. DH and I plan to spend a few extra days after the wedding to see Hearst castle and more of the coast.

Mamie316
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07-08-2003

Thursday, February 19, 2004 - 8:05 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
We went to visit Hearst Castle on our honeymoon. My great grandfather designed a lot of the casting around the castle and we just recently had a Vanderloo family tour. That was incredible.

And Tabby, it's scary when the doctor wants to send you to Highland Hospital. That hospital is scary enough!

Tabbyking
Member

03-11-2002

Thursday, February 19, 2004 - 8:13 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
not as scary as my ex!! he totally deserved highland:-)

Mamie316
Member

07-08-2003

Thursday, February 19, 2004 - 8:15 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
LOL.. I saw your story..wow..couldn't even have dreamt it up in Hollywood!

Mygetaway
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08-23-2000

Thursday, February 19, 2004 - 9:06 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Wow Tabby.. your stories never cease to amaze me.

I have a question.. The other day I was watching "The Good, The Bad and The Ugly" on TLC. They picked the actual wedding planner who is a "planner to the stars". Anyway, she was flabbergasted at their budget of $15,000. Said that she could barely do anything with that amount. Granted the wedding was in New York, and being put together fast, but yikes... Is that really a low amount when it comes to most weddings? They were planning on 160-180 people.
That's crazy. (But well worth it, I'm sure. I could just never afford to do that now..)

Mamie316
Member

07-08-2003

Thursday, February 19, 2004 - 9:07 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
I watch the show For Better Or For Worse and they have put together very lovely weddings for $5000.

Lobster
Member

04-13-2001

Thursday, February 19, 2004 - 9:09 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Texannie, my parents' anniversary is the same day as yours. They will be married 59 years. Sully wed

Tabbyking
Member

03-11-2002

Thursday, February 19, 2004 - 9:32 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
our wedding and then a pig roast for 100, including alcohol, cost us less than 1,200 bucks, and took one day to plan, maybe a week to execute...and the hardest part was finding banana leaves. must be why we now have about 25 banana trees in our yard!

Twiggyish
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08-14-2000

Thursday, February 19, 2004 - 9:48 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
We had a fairly large wedding. I wore an ivory colored Italian lace wedding gown. My husband wore an ivory tux. I wanted him to stand out in the wedding pictures, too. He had a cut-away tux.
The day was absolutely beautiful, as I woke up to a frenzied house..with my bridesmaids there, too! That day the photographer came to our house and posed me in front of the large mirror in our dining room and in all sorts of family shots, too. My bridesmaids were all dressed in victorian style rose dresses. (no chiffon) I knew they would love their dresses, as they helped me pick them out.
Our groomsmen wore burgundy/dark rose tuxes..remember it was 1980 and that was in style. They did NOT have ruffle shirts, though..LOL
The church was decorated with lovely white and pink tea roses...with a beautiful flower garland across the alter in front.
My little cousin (who is now grown) was my flower girl and she had a pretty pink fluffy dress. She had just lost her teeth and her little toothless grin was adorable as she walked down the aisle. My ring bearer was a minature man in his little tux. (sooo cute)
I selected Bach's, Jesu Joy in Man's Desiring as processional music. I have always LOVED that song! I'll never forget the organist being in a huff because SHE wanted to make the musical selection.
It was a very lovely ceremony. I only remember crying and shaking the whole time..LOL

Our reception was at a country club with a full buffet (huge) for the guests. Our band played a selection of music from the 40's to the present..because our guests were all ages. Everyone said they had a great time that evening. It was truly memorable!
As we were leaving, I changed into a going away dress, as I didn't want anything to happen to the gown. It was a good thing..because our car was a horrible mess. We had every imaginable piece of junk, gunk and stuff hanging on our car. I was later told our wedding party had a good time decorating the car. New husband and I drove directly to a car wash and spent quite a bit of time there cleaning!!
One note.. we had a money dance at the wedding and it gave us lots of spending money for our honeymoon. I'll never forget these little old guys with money standing in line to dance with me!!

Mamie316
Member

07-08-2003

Thursday, February 19, 2004 - 10:44 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
That's so funny Twiggy because we drove straight to the carwash too.

We were married 24 years ago this April 19. It was a fairly large wedding with about 300 guests. We were married in the church that I grew up in and went to school at. I had 4 bridesmaids and my sister was my maid of honor. They all wore a lovely royal blue and all my flowers were pink, white and a little bit of blue. I walked down the aisle to "The Hawaiian Wedding Song" as my Mom was born and raised in Kauai and a lot of my relatives had flown in. We had our reception at the community center and it was lots of fun. My sister-in-laws then boyfriend was in a band so they played for free. My wedding was also very bittersweet as my dad was very ill from cancer and died just 3 weeks later. He actually lived (so the doctors say) to walk me down the aisle. Then we had a horrible thing happen with our photographer, his studio was broken into shortly after our wedding, and everything was stolen out of it. We lost all of our wedding photos. This was so heartbreaking because of all the pictures I had with my dad that could never be replaced. The wonderful thing was that anyone who had taken any pictures that day, heard of our news and sent them all to us. I have a wonderful picture of my dad and me just entering the church. Though it was tragic, our day was still very special and filled with lots of love and I do have many cherished memories. And here we are still married!

Wargod
Member

07-16-2001

Thursday, February 19, 2004 - 11:13 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Oh, wedding stories! Here's mine, Mow and I had been best friends for 8 years before we got together. We were together for a year and a half, had already had caleb, so a big wedding wasn't really something we were interested in.

I had a flower girl, my sister was the maid of honor, and Mow's mom stood in place of best man. Fairly small wedding, with 55 guest, and friends and family helped to cook food for the reception. The whole wedding and reception was so us...simple, fun, and with just close friends and family. I made all the bouquets and did most of the decorating myself.

It wasn't all fun though. I woke up the morning of my wedding feeling horrible. I thought it was nerves, though honestly I wasn't feeling nervous. I went through two bottles of pepto before the ceremony, and at the reception couldn't eat or drink anything at all. We left the next morning for San Diego for five days. First day we couldn't leave the hotel I was so sick. It didn't improve, lol. We spent two days trying to have fun, but realized that something was really wrong with me and cut our honeymoon short so I could come home and go to the doctor. Seems that right before our wedding I got food poisioning. No idea where I got it, I was the only one, and I have never been so sick in my life! Other than that we had a great wedding and honeymoon!

Texannie
Member

07-16-2001

Friday, February 20, 2004 - 5:38 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Mak, October 15 was my parents' wedding anniversary.
Lobster, beautiful picture Tell your folks congrats for me!

Froggiegirl621
Member

02-14-2003

Friday, February 20, 2004 - 9:20 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
MGA - I have read in numerous bridal magazines and sites online that the average American wedding these days costs $20,000! I remember when all my planning started I couldn't imagine spending that kind of money, or even asking my parents or his to help pay for such an extravagant party. Well I thought setting a budget of $7,000 seemed reasonable, but then I started looking at reception sites and that blew that budget right out of the water! Some places wanted to charge $55-$70 per person! And that wasn't including the open bar. So I changed my budget to $10,000...then $12,000. Now after all is said and done it will probably be close to $15,000, but that's including EVERYTHING except the honeymoon which is going to be a total surprise to me. Now granted my parents are not paying for the whole thing themselves, they're not those kinds of people. But they have offered to pay for the whole reception and that's about half of the budget right there. His parents are doing the rehearsal dinner, limo(s), flowers, photographer and DJ. Then we are doing the rest, the cake, my dress, his tux, favors, invites, and bridal party gifts. Everyone is doing what they can for us, for which I'm very appreciative. I think I'm pretty lucky to be having the kind of wedding I've always wanted.

I love all of your wedding stories...keep them coming!


Tabbyking
Member

03-11-2002

Friday, February 20, 2004 - 9:45 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
for my next wedding, i am going to be whisked away on a private jet to some tower in NYC. i will spend a few days in a poorly decorated (1980's colors) loft, and watch old movies to pass the time. "heidi" comes to mind. you know the poor gal who went to the city and lived with 15 other young adults, struggling to be noticed by a man who doesn't even know he has an orange combover? and a goat (i kid you not).
my bouquet will be early spring omarosas, with a sprinkling of bad morning breath. my bridesmaids will be women who barely speak to each other (well, except to shout), so they don't steal my money, er, special day. (hey! i need that money. we aren't having a money dance).
while waiting for everyone to plan things (i plan to get hit by a micro-size paint chip, which will cause me severe pain, but only during working hours. i need to be on top of my game at other times. You know, "outta sight, outta my mind?" and all that) i will be out shopping for new golf clubs, gold (Troy weight, of course!), sipping lemonade and staring at the sky and wondering why jets overhead look like a man's privates.
in the Nick of time, i realize this might not be my dream wedding after all, and i look at my wedding planner and point my heavily-weighed down with a 20-carat flawless henry winston diamond ring finger and say, " amelia bedelia, you're fired!"