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Texannie
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07-16-2001

Monday, January 31, 2005 - 7:13 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
RG, I agree. I am just saying that I think the strong reaction comes from the fact that they seem so sexual, not that they are.
I have friends that swear by them too..boggles my mind, can't imagine that butt floss would be comfortable! LOL

Julie, things like don't walk your child to the bus stop, brown bag lunch, the underwear thing, gosh...drawing a blank! LOL

Resortgirl
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09-23-2000

Monday, January 31, 2005 - 7:21 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Jordan, who is 14 absolutely HATES it when I give him a great big smoochy when I drop him off at the front door of the school!!

Secretsmile
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08-19-2002

Monday, January 31, 2005 - 7:28 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
I guess I'm about the only one that would let my 13 year old wear thong underwear. When my daughter was younger she felt it was very important to wear what all the other girls wore. I remembered feeling that way when I was young so I tried to give her the benefit of the doubt that she didn't want to stand out vs wanting to be sexy for boys. It really was all about the other girls and fitting in.

I also admit to being slow to accept the bra straps showing. I just didn't get that fashion statement, but she was willing to compromise with me and got bras with clear straps to wear under strappy t-shirts.

If I were to give advice on this one, I'd say talk to her, find out if she just wants one or two pair to wear with certain clothes or on the days she's apt to undress in front of the other girls, maybe you can be reassured and compromise.

As they get older it's even more important to choose your battles wisely.

Texannie
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07-16-2001

Monday, January 31, 2005 - 7:33 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
I agree, the why behind the request is always what I am interested.

Resortgirl
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09-23-2000

Monday, January 31, 2005 - 7:34 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Your not the only one Secret! I'll never forget the day DH and I were folding clothes and he held up a pair of itty bitty little thongs, swung them around with a leering look on his face and said, Woo Hoo, when did you buy these??? I said, there not mine, there DD's! He dropped em so fast like his fingers were on fire!! LOL!

Secretsmile
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08-19-2002

Monday, January 31, 2005 - 7:52 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
LOL, ^5 RG, maybe I should also add that I do know when my daughter lost her virginity, we talked about it, and it wasn't in high school and it wasn't due to her showing her bra straps.

Resortgirl
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09-23-2000

Monday, January 31, 2005 - 7:53 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
^5 back at ya Secret! I have a relationship like that with my daughter also. It's wonderful, isn't it?

Texannie
Member

07-16-2001

Monday, January 31, 2005 - 7:54 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
runs out with my hand over my ears, saying la la la la la, i can't hear you!!!!!!!!!!!

I so don't want to go there yet!!!!!!

Resortgirl
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09-23-2000

Monday, January 31, 2005 - 7:59 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Awww, Annie. It's not so bad! The mother/daughter relationship evolves into a wonderful lifelong loving, trusting friendship. I'm truly blessed to have a 22 year old daughter who calls me and wants my advice, and actually takes it from time to time! You'll do great!

Secretsmile
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08-19-2002

Monday, January 31, 2005 - 7:59 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
ppssttt..... Annie, we NEVER want to go there, trust me!

Texannie
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07-16-2001

Monday, January 31, 2005 - 8:01 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
I keep reminding myself that my mom and I ended up being best friends (sure didn't start that way! LOL)

Mocha
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08-12-2001

Monday, January 31, 2005 - 10:32 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
To answer the question, hell no. Girls that age seem to wear thongs to show them off and no one at 13yrs old needs to do that.

Landi
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07-29-2002

Monday, January 31, 2005 - 11:21 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
EXACTLY mocha! that's why i said what i said.

it really isn't a "like the other girls thing". i drop off and pick my daughter up from school, and go to enough grocery stores, and local stores to see what the "other girls" are wearing. i've seen the parents drive off in the morning, and as soon as they are gone, they start pulling their pants down lower, and their shirts up higher.

if you are thinking any different you are wrong. my husband and i both agree on this one.


Mocha
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08-12-2001

Monday, January 31, 2005 - 11:27 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Isn't the idea to teach our kids not to give into peer pressure and the everyone else is doing it thing? Maybe I'm wrong.

Danas15146
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03-31-2004

Monday, January 31, 2005 - 11:58 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Why the heck is anyone making thongs for girls that age??? I am not looking forward to my Samantha hitting that age -- maybe I should take up drinking now.

Mocha
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08-12-2001

Monday, January 31, 2005 - 11:59 am   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
Lol, I think they're size specific, not age specific.

Landi
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07-29-2002

Monday, January 31, 2005 - 12:13 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
yep, size specific, not age.

and mocha, that's my thinking. and holly knows it.


Danas15146
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03-31-2004

Monday, January 31, 2005 - 12:18 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
So I should plan on repeating "because I am not so and so's mother" for many years to come is what ya'll are saying!

Landi
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07-29-2002

Monday, January 31, 2005 - 12:34 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
YOU GOT IT! you have to set your own rules, and stand by them. they will try to convince you otherwise a thousand different times. STAND YOUR GROUND!

Brenda1966
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07-03-2002

Monday, January 31, 2005 - 12:39 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
I'm with Secret -- you have to pick your battles.

Thongs do serve a purpose -- no pantylines. And honestly, once you wear them once you find they aren't that bad. I can see why the young girls are excited about them. Kids always want to wear something that will shock and outrage the old-farts, oops I mean old folks. :-)

I'd certainly have a discussion about they why's of wanting to wear them. But I think making too many things forbidden just increases the allure of them.

Mocha
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08-12-2001

Monday, January 31, 2005 - 12:41 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
I'm sorry but my 13yr old wouldn't need to be concerned about pantylines and if they are then their clothes are too tight. :-)

Texannie
Member

07-16-2001

Monday, January 31, 2005 - 1:28 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
It's funny. My big thing are the skimpy tank tops. I wouldn't even let my dd wear them as a little girl. I had several friends who's feelings were 'why not while they are little, they don't have bosoms so no big deal' which is certainly a valid opinion. My thinking was 'if I am not going to allow it later why allow it now'.
We all have our push buttons.

Danas15146
Member

03-31-2004

Monday, January 31, 2005 - 2:18 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
I was so frustrated trying to find summer clothes and jeans for Samantha this year. Everything is massively skimpy and she is a solid kid - the lower rider jeans pinch her and that is all I can find. Ended up with boys levis and sewing lace and hearts on them to girl them up. The shorts in her size wouldn't cover anything -- sorry there is no way that I am sending my daughter to school looking like a bratz doll or a street walker (not much difference I guess as far as clothing goes!)

Tess
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04-13-2001

Monday, January 31, 2005 - 2:18 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
I'm thinking I'm very glad that Miss Sarah is such a tomboy that 90% of her clothing comes from the boy's department and she doesn't want any boys seeing what she's got.

My answer on the question at hand would undeniably be NO to the thongs. I pick my battles and that would definitely be one of the ones I'd choose.

Landi
Member

07-29-2002

Monday, January 31, 2005 - 2:30 pm   Edit Post Move Post Delete Post View Post    
there will come a day tess. there will come a day.

right now she's a tomboy, wait until high school.