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Whoami
Member
08-03-2001
| Wednesday, December 15, 2004 - 6:42 pm
At the risk of sounding like a stalker....Kar, you're so too charismatic its hard not to compliment you! Actually, I have a "fear" of complimenting people for that very reason. I always feel like someone is going to be thinking, "oh yuck, is she trying to come on to me?" (if its a guy), or "she's too needy." (guy or girl). I guess its damned if you do, damned if you don't. Compliment a person and chase away a potential friend. Don't compliment them, and pass over the chance to make a friend in the first place! Actually, I do understand a bit of what you mean though. I remember when I was a Lead at one work place. I had one girl on my crew who would break into a huge smile and a grandiose "Good Morning" every time I came into work. I was instantly on guard. Thinking of her as a suck up, and someone who would most likely trash me behind my back. It wasn't until a year or so later, when we were working side by side as equals, that I realized that she really was just that nice! LOL. I think she was an exception to the rule though.
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Pamy
Member
01-02-2002
| Wednesday, December 15, 2004 - 7:58 pm
I think Whoami is a hottie
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Seamonkey
Member
09-07-2000
| Wednesday, December 15, 2004 - 8:13 pm
Who.. and when you realized that shw really was just that nice.. hope you can realize that YOU are really just that nice and that's why she really liked you. Landi, I know what you mean.. I get butterflies on the way to a new meeting.. they get a little bit smaller sometimes but they are there. I was honored to be invited into three homes while I was up north (and got to visit Pamy's place to meet Dopey earlier in the year) I DO offer to provide TVCH references, though. The fake death or illness thing would simply enrage me.. I've belonged to groups, again it was precomputer but we sent letters to a coordinator and then those letters were copied and sent to the whole group as a packet.. this kept our addresses confidential, but that didn't last long Because it was a group of multiples (and all had been subjected to ritual abuse) there was a high level of - real - pain and the possible loss to suicide was real and acknowledged and, tragically, did happen. That was devastating but it wasn't fake. That would, well I already said it.. Legal, I know what you mean about AIM or IM.. especially way back when I was first on aol and then friends began joining aol and I was almost feeling stalked in that way. Now it is just a tool.
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Juju2bigdog
Member
10-27-2000
| Wednesday, December 15, 2004 - 8:27 pm
I have found that people who have double vowels in their usernames can be a bit squirrelly. Especially double u's. <looks sideways at KarUUna>

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Jmm
Member
08-16-2002
| Wednesday, December 15, 2004 - 8:36 pm
Whew, glad she said double vowels. 
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Whoami
Member
08-03-2001
| Wednesday, December 15, 2004 - 8:41 pm
Hmmm, is that double identical vowels? Or is WhOAmi also subject to suspicion? Hottie? Oh poor Pamy. Have you had your eyes checked lately? Awwww, thanks Sea! I sure try to be nice anyway. I'm sure I have my darker moments just like anyone else though. Hey....wait a minute......S(EA)monkey....another double vowel!
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Pamy
Member
01-02-2002
| Wednesday, December 15, 2004 - 9:04 pm
Who, beauty is within and you ARE a hottie!! and I am not a stalker! lol
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Seamonkey
Member
09-07-2000
| Wednesday, December 15, 2004 - 9:21 pm
And nice people have dark moments and moods.. good grief if all was sunshine and flowers, that would be boring!
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Reader234
Member
08-13-2000
| Wednesday, December 15, 2004 - 9:22 pm
sure Pamy!! The first online person I met, I was so excited, she was at a PTO conference downtown Chicago, and we were on that ivillage site, and those that werent into drama, flaming, exposing, well, we found our own message board (delphi forum first) so we'd "known" each other for 2 years... and I was excited to "meet" my 'friend'. (lots in common on the bb mind you) So I drive downtown Chicago, meet up to her room, we hug, I brought sandwiches from a deli, ice tea, and of course Champagne... then she decides she needs to check out the convention (that starts the next day) and so I 'get it' I was dismissed. and I left. (hah took my champagne too!) Never heard from her again. She took a break from the message board for quite awhile, but eventually we both came back, neither of us posts to each other... So needless to say, I was quite nervous meeting hosting the whole Chicago Road Trip - I mean come on, important people that mattered were coming!! Egbok, Karuuna, Spy, Reiki, Kar... and Az was coming all the way from Singapore!! Yep, I was hoping they wouldnt dismiss me!!
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Karuuna
Member
08-31-2000
| Thursday, December 16, 2004 - 11:34 am
LOL, Who! I could never think of you as a stalker! You're much too sweet and thoughtful. (and having met Who a coupla times, I should know! She's an angel!) What I meant about too many compliments was those folks who seem to have a silver tongue, but don't seem to be particularly sincere. Yes, there are some folks like that who are genuine too, but there is kind of a different "feel" to their compliments. As in all the stuff I posted, there are people who are really ill, people who are going thru a particularly needy time, etc, you have to evaluate the whole person and situation I think. That's what makes it difficult. Actually, jUjU, I don't think the vowels have to be right together; and I seem to remember something particular odd about anyone with two U's in their name.... And as long as I'm here, let me just say I not only think Who is amazing, but I've also met Rosie and Pamy and Sea and Reader and Mocha and JMM and they're all terrific folks that I can't wait to see again! 
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Vee
Member
02-23-2004
| Thursday, December 16, 2004 - 11:54 am
Did someone say something about double identical vowels? 
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Mocha
Member
08-12-2001
| Thursday, December 16, 2004 - 12:05 pm
I let Kar eat the fries off my plate and I usually don't let anyone touch my food. And Who got Mojohugs so nuff said. 
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Graceunderfyre
Member
01-21-2004
| Thursday, December 16, 2004 - 12:36 pm
is there a problem with two vowels in a row?
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Seamonkey
Member
09-07-2000
| Thursday, December 16, 2004 - 12:56 pm
Hmm .. two vowels in a row?? Mojohugs are the BEST!. See and while I don't stake my life on other meetings and other recommendations and while I already know I adore JMM, having seen pictures of her and her family and her with other TVCHers, I KNOW it will be a great meeting And I'm just using JMM as an example, here..
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Readonly
Member
04-16-2003
| Thursday, December 16, 2004 - 1:24 pm
Sometimes I feel like I am the stalker, or maybe I should say voyeur, especially when I read posts in the Caring section. I have learned much from reading those posts, but don't often respond because someone else has already said what I'm thinking or I'm sometimes so moved I can't think of anything to say. Being a shy person makes it even harder to speak up and when I do, I worry that I've said the wrong thing or people are going to misunderstand. I don't know if this all makes sense or even fits into this category, but I hope I never come across as a stalker.
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Juju2bigdog
Member
10-27-2000
| Thursday, December 16, 2004 - 1:42 pm
Uhhhhhh ... oh yeah. Now I remember. It was just people with two U's in their usernames.
<cough>
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Landi
Member
07-29-2002
| Thursday, December 16, 2004 - 1:56 pm
so you mean i never should have given you guys a ride juju? you would have done me in if you had a chance?? hehehehehhe
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Reader234
Member
08-13-2000
| Thursday, December 16, 2004 - 2:42 pm
Readonly, it makes sense to me, and I thank you for caring... <passing the juju some cough drops> (and reminding Landi that someone with two vowels in her name (rhymes leaky) brought an axe to a gathering!!>
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Kaili
Member
08-31-2000
| Thursday, December 16, 2004 - 2:43 pm
Are two "i"s that are separated okay? No one here's met me. I don't look stalker-y, do I????
  
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Mak1
Member
08-12-2002
| Thursday, December 16, 2004 - 5:54 pm
Reader, I remember that axe-wielding double vowel leaky-rhymed girl! I would be thrilled to meet her again, though perhaps not in a dark alley. <Did anyone else notice the way Kaili-with-the-Double Vowels appears to be trying to entice us with that dazzling smile?> disclaimer: The comments in this post, though compliments, were not typed by a stalker. You can tell by the lack of a second vowel and because most TVCHers I met in Mystic are NOT missing.
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Seamonkey
Member
09-07-2000
| Thursday, December 16, 2004 - 6:35 pm
But then we have those with numbers in their names.. hmmmm.. "most" hmmmmmm. <snortle>
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Deesandy
Member
08-12-2003
| Thursday, December 16, 2004 - 6:41 pm
Y'all are scaring me! 
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Graceunderfyre
Member
01-21-2004
| Thursday, December 16, 2004 - 6:42 pm
and there are those whose nicknames are a bunch of letters/numbers that don't make sense. . .
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Juju2bigdog
Member
10-27-2000
| Thursday, December 16, 2004 - 7:11 pm
quote:I don't look stalker-y, do I????
No, Kaili, I don't think you look too stalker-y.

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Kaili
Member
08-31-2000
| Thursday, December 16, 2004 - 8:12 pm
Heeheeeheeee.....Maybe the double 'I' just means I'm a little bit...all about me, me, I, I, me I sometimes worry about those with just two numbers, sometimes in red <number>...they do seem to follow certain people around the board. Not ME of course though!
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