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Hukdonreality
Member
09-29-2003
| Thursday, August 23, 2007 - 1:41 am
This D/D "discussion" is so similar to the one last night. Dick wants to resolve their issues, and insists Dani take the blame for part of their breakdown in the relationship. She seems unable to or unwilling to discuss her reasons for not communicating with him for years. No matter what she says, he insists she give him examples. That's not the way, IMO, to work through things. Amber is now in HOH, consoling Dani.
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Naja
Member
06-28-2003
| Thursday, August 23, 2007 - 1:41 am
Yeah, you gotta see that it's Dani taking all these people out of her life...they didn't leave. Dani reminds of this lady, Janet, who we felt so bad for having endured some kind of harassment at the police dept when she worked there...Yeah, we felt bad until we found out she had 4 other pending suits for harassment at the last 4 places she worked at, too.
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Max
Moderator
08-12-2000
| Thursday, August 23, 2007 - 1:41 am
Hard to judge, really, because (as has been said), we really don't know the family background and dynamics. Clearly there are lots and lots of issues. It also seems clear that Dick often has problems being the adult in the relationship and probably always has. He seems to want to be friends most of the time, rather than a father figure, and then he'll switch and want to play daddy. It just doesn't work like that. But Dani does the same thing. She'll be all nice and together with him when it suits her and then get in a mood, do something that's totally self-serving and get mad at him when he points out that she did it. It's just painful to watch and to fix their relationship would take a LOT of work on both their parts with a VERY patient counselor. Somehow, I don't see either of them ceasing their stubborness and need to be "right" to make that happen. In the words of Dani, "I'm so over them!"
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Kalekona
Member
06-12-2005
| Thursday, August 23, 2007 - 1:42 am
She is so over him? I am so over her and her selfish way. She is going to be the girl to get her own father evicted. Amber is asking her if she does and offering to get it done.
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Hypermom
Member
08-13-2001
| Thursday, August 23, 2007 - 1:44 am
LOL So, because Vincent wouldn't let her borrow video games, he did something horrible to her? Unreal!
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Carrie92
Member
09-15-2003
| Thursday, August 23, 2007 - 1:44 am
Let's remember her age though, I wouldn't want to be part of that dysfunction either, at her age. And there's a bigger picture going on underneath that none of us know about. He needs to stop pressuring her - she clearly doesn't want to do this right now. Again, not the time or place.
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Klaw73
Member
08-21-2006
| Thursday, August 23, 2007 - 1:44 am
It is painful to watch, Max...I have a hard time having all kinds of expectations from Dani in the relationship merely b/c she is so young. She is barely out of high school, but she does some times act like the adult in the situation. IMO, Dani wants to work with Dick game wise, but leave the rest for later.
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Dfng
Member
08-04-2005
| Thursday, August 23, 2007 - 1:44 am
I really think it is wrong of Dani to say to Amber that her dad did horrible things but she is not going to put it out there. If she really doesn't want to put it out there then don't say he did horrible things.
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Kalekona
Member
06-12-2005
| Thursday, August 23, 2007 - 1:46 am
No but he is seeing nothing is going to matter, even when they leave the house, he has chosen her every time in this game and she chose herself, a nice metaphor for their life right now really.
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Dfng
Member
08-04-2005
| Thursday, August 23, 2007 - 1:46 am
How do you keep the relationship out of the game. For instance, Dani made a deal and did not include Dick in the deal. Dick feels like Dani turned her back on him in the game. Same feelings he had outside of the game. Kind of hard to seperate the two.
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Hypermom
Member
08-13-2001
| Thursday, August 23, 2007 - 1:46 am
Df, yes.
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Carrie92
Member
09-15-2003
| Thursday, August 23, 2007 - 1:47 am
I think she would be more open to taking some responsibility if he took an ounce of it. Holy cow - is Amber making sense?? Is there a full moon tonight?
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Beekindpleez
Member
07-18-2006
| Thursday, August 23, 2007 - 1:48 am
This is the most sense I've heard Amber make.
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Beekindpleez
Member
07-18-2006
| Thursday, August 23, 2007 - 1:49 am
Jessica and Eric said earlier that they thought Dick and Daniele were putting this on. I wonder if Amber will set them straight.
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Kalekona
Member
06-12-2005
| Thursday, August 23, 2007 - 1:50 am
yes Amber is making sense..... bizarro world. And Dick has tried to take responsibility
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Dfng
Member
08-04-2005
| Thursday, August 23, 2007 - 1:50 am
What Dani needs to do is to stop acting like a brat with her dad. Suck it up and lose the attitude. She will be amazed at how well they can get along. It is a lesson I have learned over the years.
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Naja
Member
06-28-2003
| Thursday, August 23, 2007 - 1:50 am
Taking responsibility or working on their relationship really has nothing to do with her betrayal. "In the House" Dick would NEVER make a deal that didn't include helping Dani Dani could give a frig and will make deals that only help herself.
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Dfng
Member
08-04-2005
| Thursday, August 23, 2007 - 1:51 am
Naja... ITA.
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Klaw73
Member
08-21-2006
| Thursday, August 23, 2007 - 1:52 am
Dani reminds me of one of my daughter's friends...she doesn't have a strong bond with either parent b/c they are always flip flopping on custody and are in and out of her life. She could deal with being without Dad but longed for her Mom so bad. When she was with her mom, she spent 95 percent of her time with me. She would be with me for a week at a time and her mom wouldn't call to check on her or anything. When things go wrong with her, she calls me for help. That being said, I always want to give Dani a big hug. She has a lot of built anger that I think she will overcome with age. That song by Kellie Pickler re: her mom reminds me of Daniele too.
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Llb
Member
08-22-2007
| Thursday, August 23, 2007 - 1:52 am
Bee, I was thinking that myself. After all, the closer they seem, the more of a threat they are. So long as they are at odds with one another, no one will see them as a powerful pair.
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Beekindpleez
Member
07-18-2006
| Thursday, August 23, 2007 - 1:53 am
I've never heard Daniele call Dick Dad...has anyone else?
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Tresbien
Member
08-27-2002
| Thursday, August 23, 2007 - 1:54 am
What's Jameka bawling about?
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Dfng
Member
08-04-2005
| Thursday, August 23, 2007 - 1:54 am
Why is Jameka crying
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Kalekona
Member
06-12-2005
| Thursday, August 23, 2007 - 1:54 am
I've heard her say "my dad" but never heard her call him Dad to his face.
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Dfng
Member
08-04-2005
| Thursday, August 23, 2007 - 1:55 am
Okay, why does she pray out loud? Even when I am home alone, I don't pray out loud. Just curious.
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