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Smokey
Member
07-08-2003
| Sunday, July 22, 2007 - 3:24 pm
Christiii--I have a daughter who has said I'm a mean mom at times, too. It's what kids do who don't get their way.
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Aerojunki
Member
06-30-2004
| Sunday, July 22, 2007 - 3:24 pm
You're welcome, Smokey
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Bicbicz911
Member
08-20-2005
| Sunday, July 22, 2007 - 3:25 pm
I think the "mean friend" designation is something that Dani made up so that she sounds like the innocent victim in all this.
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Aerojunki
Member
06-30-2004
| Sunday, July 22, 2007 - 3:25 pm
You're welcome too, Hypermom :o)
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Hypermom
Member
08-13-2001
| Sunday, July 22, 2007 - 3:26 pm
Smokey, too funny!
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Bicbicz911
Member
08-20-2005
| Sunday, July 22, 2007 - 3:28 pm
Dick was pretty young when those kids were born. Since we don't know the situation with the mom, it appears that he was left to make all the decisions for them. Probably he did the best he could do for them, we all enlist someone's help. It seems his only option was his pretty strict parents, who refused to let the kids live Dick's nomadic lifestyle. Not a popular choice for the kids, but most likely the best decision for a stable upbringing.
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Hypermom
Member
08-13-2001
| Sunday, July 22, 2007 - 3:28 pm
Smokey, my daughter went through the same stage. Nothing I said was right. lol She could manipulate my emotions very well. Now, she's 23, and we get along very well.
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Christiii
Member
07-07-2005
| Sunday, July 22, 2007 - 3:28 pm
you are right Earth Mother, and the possibility that dad gave her TOO much never occured to me. Wonder why then he didnt just take on the role of a single dad, instead of having the grandparents raise them. I was kind of , loosely in the the same situation. My parents divorced when I was 10, and he was nearby, but was never a father. I just could not see him coming to me with fatherly advice, after years of not emotionallly being there. He WAS around now and then physically, but really could have cared less about me, so yeah, it can happen
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Smokey
Member
07-08-2003
| Sunday, July 22, 2007 - 3:30 pm
Right on, Bicbicz. Hypermom, it's a tough situation, isn't it? My daughter has gotten better, but I really have had to remove myself from the struggle many times. It would go down exactly how this thing with Dick went. That's why I feel strongly he was right because I noticed he did not react--didn't let her push his buttons. That is really hard when you are in that.
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Nala63
Member
09-20-2005
| Sunday, July 22, 2007 - 3:32 pm
ummm, he could afford to live in europe and hawaii but ot raise his kids as a single dad??? give me a break
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Earthmother
Member
07-14-2002
| Sunday, July 22, 2007 - 3:32 pm
Bicbicz, that is probably true. Dick obviously has not grown into the dad that most do. He thinks young and acts young, he probably spends most of his time with people much younger than him, because they accept his style. He probably was like a friend to his kids because he didn't have the same hangups that many stereotypical parents do. I'm sure Dani would expect young daddy to let her do whatever she wants and when he doesn't she gets bent. They probably do have more of a friendship type relationship than a parent/child and therefore when her friend says "NO" she thinks he's just being mean.
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Goddessatlaw
Member
07-19-2002
| Sunday, July 22, 2007 - 3:33 pm
Hell, I wrote a whole letter to my Mom telling her how mean she was when I was 11. It was my first experience in "don't write that shit down if you don't want anyone to read it" LOL. Ya, she found the letter. Absorbed it as me venting in a healthy way and we both moved on, no drama or recrimination. Probably also hurt her feelings a great deal, because she is a great mom. It was just my perspective at the time. I've seen many children of broken homes who experience slow emotional growth (many who also grow up too soon). Dad is there to lash out at. Mom never has been, so ED takes the brunt of it. Every man who has raised a teenage daughter knows how hard that is, even in the best homes. I'm not surprised Dick and Danielle don't know how to deal with each other. My dad would get the most helpless, confused look on his face when we'd burst into tears and wouldn't talk to him about why. I see Danielle as still a teenager emotionally. And her dad as a father in the classic "I'm trying to understand but I don't" position. Danielle is going to have to do a bit more maturing before she and her dad have a chance of reaching peace and understanding. IMHO. And PS yes, I'm mighty glad I got my dad instead of Dick.
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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Sunday, July 22, 2007 - 3:33 pm
Since we do not know all the details, I think it is not right to judge him as a young parent....
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Earthmother
Member
07-14-2002
| Sunday, July 22, 2007 - 3:34 pm
I don't think anyone said anything about financially Nala.. It could have been his work schedule, or emotionally. who knows.
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Rosem4243
Member
06-27-2005
| Sunday, July 22, 2007 - 3:35 pm
Amber just told Eric she's not a repeater, and then proceeds to repeat a story that she promised she wouldn't tell anyone. She is a piece of work...
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Bicbicz911
Member
08-20-2005
| Sunday, July 22, 2007 - 3:35 pm
I admire parents who can do that Smokey. I don't have any kids, but have raised a niece and nephew. LOTTA acting out due to being dumped on another's doorstep. Reminds me a lot of the Dick/Dani situation. Nothing you do is ever right, because someone didn't want you. Also, I'm adopted, so I've dealt with those emotions my whole life. Pushing my parents when I was young to see how much they would take from me before they'd give me away too. Now that I'm much older, I can look back on it and see how much time I wasted playing those games. I think Dani will too.
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Hober
Member
06-27-2004
| Sunday, July 22, 2007 - 3:35 pm
lol, amber is talking to eric, tells him she trusts him, and eric said he's not a repeater and amber says either am I...LOL...and then tells eric what someone told her.
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Caycaye
Member
09-14-2001
| Sunday, July 22, 2007 - 3:38 pm
Whoaaaa...go Eric!!! Smart boy!!!
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Smokey
Member
07-08-2003
| Sunday, July 22, 2007 - 3:38 pm
Thanks, Bicbicz, but it was survival and learning some skills in how to deal. I've been through therapy as we all have around here. What's really interesting for me is, Dick reminds me of the same kind of dad my kids have. My ex still thinks it's 1969 and acts like it. I am young at heart, but this is different. Very, very immature in many ways. My daughter has commented on it, too, because she watches a lot of BB.
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Rosem4243
Member
06-27-2005
| Sunday, July 22, 2007 - 3:38 pm
Seems like Dick's minions are starting a mutiny!
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Kearie
Member
07-21-2005
| Sunday, July 22, 2007 - 3:39 pm
I think poor people live in Hawaii and Europe also.
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Krissn
Member
07-09-2005
| Sunday, July 22, 2007 - 3:39 pm
I really do like Eric. If he weren't AP, he would be a shoo-in for top 2. Now, we'll just have to see but I'll keep voting to try and help.
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Smokey
Member
07-08-2003
| Sunday, July 22, 2007 - 3:39 pm
ooooh no, here goes KAIL again!
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Seattlemom
Member
05-10-2005
| Sunday, July 22, 2007 - 3:39 pm
LOL Hober and Amber is telling him what people say to her! and they both don't like the way Dick acts but don't give a thought to the fact they are in his HOH room,wonder what angry Dick would think about that LOL
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Bicbicz911
Member
08-20-2005
| Sunday, July 22, 2007 - 3:41 pm
Does anyone but me find it ironic that Eric and Amber are using Dick's HOH room for privacy while they talk smack about.....Dick??
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