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Keldogg
Member
08-12-2005
| Saturday, July 25, 2009 - 2:16 am
Chew, interesting that you would say that....I went through something very intense when I was about the same age as Chima. Yes, it did affect me, yes,I was traumatized. But I did not use it as an excuse to belittle everyone around me, I did not use it as an excuse to demand that everyone cater to my needs. So I guess I'm having a hard time excusing her behavior because of it.
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Beekindpleez
Member
07-18-2006
| Saturday, July 25, 2009 - 2:16 am
Chima says she was asked what she thought about America choosing cabbage and cocktail weiners. She said she told DR: America can suck it. Could have been sardines, Chima. Would that have been better? lol
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Wargod
Moderator
07-16-2001
| Saturday, July 25, 2009 - 2:18 am
Or pickled herring and pickled eggs. Or seaweed.
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Mummy35332
Member
09-09-2005
| Saturday, July 25, 2009 - 2:19 am
I agree War, I would rather have the kids here where I 'think' I know what they are doing than somewhere else. Thankfully they all like popcorn.
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Beekindpleez
Member
07-18-2006
| Saturday, July 25, 2009 - 2:20 am
Thanks, War. I couldn't remember anything other than sardines. Seems to me that they got the best of the choices. lol
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Keldogg
Member
08-12-2005
| Saturday, July 25, 2009 - 2:20 am
OMG, the look on Jesse's face is scary!
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Mummy35332
Member
09-09-2005
| Saturday, July 25, 2009 - 2:21 am
I understand Chew. I do.
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Chewpito
Member
01-04-2004
| Saturday, July 25, 2009 - 2:22 am
Natalie.... wasnt she raised by her Dad...no relationship with her Mom?? .. I really dont like her!! sorry. But maybe if we dig down we could find some reasons for her as well..... she seems to take pleasure in hurting or tormenting people, she likes power....Maybe she didnt get alot of attention in her life so now she demands it...... I need to go to bed, I think to much...
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Braveheart61901
Member
08-11-2006
| Saturday, July 25, 2009 - 2:24 am
IMO, some people are able to move beyond the "victim" stage to the "suvivor" stage more easily than others. If and when Chima is able to get past the brutal trauma of her rape, to the survivor stage, I think we'd see an entirely different side to her. People heal differently. I'm not trying to excuse her behavior either, just offering up my own opinion.
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Beekindpleez
Member
07-18-2006
| Saturday, July 25, 2009 - 2:26 am
Brilliant, Jesse. Can't wait to see that on TV. zzzzzzzzzzzzzz
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Keldogg
Member
08-12-2005
| Saturday, July 25, 2009 - 2:28 am
I think that adults need to own their behavior. I could understand if Chima had trouble trusting men, I could understand if she was afraid of men. I don't understand her willingness to cry "I'm afraid of him" whenever she doesn't get her own way. Remember when she said she would go to DR and tell them she was attacked if Jeff touched her over the bed argument? That is not fear, that is manipulation.
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Mummy35332
Member
09-09-2005
| Saturday, July 25, 2009 - 2:29 am
I agree Brave, but I think there can be breaks after the survivor stage, that takes someone back to the victim stage for short periods that can be devastaing all over again.
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Braveheart61901
Member
08-11-2006
| Saturday, July 25, 2009 - 2:30 am
I agree, Mummy. Also, agree with Keldogg's last post.
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Beekindpleez
Member
07-18-2006
| Saturday, July 25, 2009 - 2:31 am
Oh my gosh. Jesse is doing that same freaky accent thing he did with Michelle last year.
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Keldogg
Member
08-12-2005
| Saturday, July 25, 2009 - 2:31 am
Bee, I know...I'm getting ill from it.
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Chewpito
Member
01-04-2004
| Saturday, July 25, 2009 - 2:32 am
right Braveheart...we are all differant and deal in our own ways.... sometimes the whole world is moving forward with you in it...but your mind is stuck in a constent state of that thing that happened...and it just messes you and your life up....
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Keldogg
Member
08-12-2005
| Saturday, July 25, 2009 - 2:32 am
Oh, God, Jesse's pitching a tent..in more ways than one.
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Mummy35332
Member
09-09-2005
| Saturday, July 25, 2009 - 2:32 am
I reread my post and it reminded me of grief, getting past it and sometimes the anniversary just knocks the steam out of you. You move on, but for a short time, you are back to the beginning.
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Mummy35332
Member
09-09-2005
| Saturday, July 25, 2009 - 2:40 am
I also agree with Keldogg, we as adults do need to own our own behavior. But I also know when something triggers the original trama, its back to square one. You can move back through things faster, but the trigger can be there. For how long? I have no idea. Exploiting this is wrong, but I can't say that is what is happening.
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Puppypaws
Member
06-09-2007
| Saturday, July 25, 2009 - 3:29 am
No wonder Jesse wants to keep Lydia around, she just did something in their tent covers for him that had him groaning.And it wasn't giving him info on others like he told Nat she was doing for him. LOL
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Puppypaws
Member
06-09-2007
| Saturday, July 25, 2009 - 3:37 am
Jesse's now returning the favor and from the sounds of Lydia he is doing something right.
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Seattlemom
Member
05-10-2005
| Saturday, July 25, 2009 - 3:40 am
I am a survivor of Rape! and I do volunteer work for Victim's Voices heard! and sadly even though I can understand how somethings trigger, fears! I feel if she is still that fragile she shouldn't be in the BB house! It's been 9 years for me and I still have trigger points! But she is okay with her going off in anger at others!
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Wargod
Moderator
07-16-2001
| Saturday, July 25, 2009 - 3:42 am
That's exactly what it was Puppypaws, lol: Lydia: Russell's being mean to me. Jesse: *pant pant pant* ohhh Lydia: they were playing truth or dare. Jesse: *groan moan groan* Yep, that's what I'm going to be telling myself for a while, they were talking game under there and he was just really enthusiastic about it.
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Beekindpleez
Member
07-18-2006
| Saturday, July 25, 2009 - 3:45 am
Have they ever kissed? Or is it always strictly a sexual exchange? I don't remember ever seeing them kiss or even really exchange sweetnesses. Kinda freaks me out a little. lol
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Beekindpleez
Member
07-18-2006
| Saturday, July 25, 2009 - 3:46 am
LOL, War. Have you ever noticed that somehow you are the one that always ends up reporting this stuff. I believe last year it was "slurp slurp" "thwap thwap" Poor nightowl, you.
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