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Julieboo
Member
02-05-2002
| Thursday, December 15, 2005 - 8:55 am
So that was the "Chris" on her t-shirt?!! Wow, I thought that was the dad's name!!!
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Auntiemike
Member
09-17-2001
| Thursday, December 15, 2005 - 9:29 am
"I couldn't agree more. I have come to realize that this family will never do anything right in the eyes of some. " NT, I will use your quote 'cause you said what I thought. Thanks. By the way, I find it interesting to relisten to Linda Weaver praying for wisdom, guidance, and other qualities that would help them get through a task. I never heard her directly ask God to get them 'the win'. Oh well, again, selective hearing abounds. I'm happy with the outcome and feel that the Linzes and Bransens deserve their moments of fame and their rewards. I also think the Weavers accomplished some much needed bonding and sense of accomplishment as a family that they needed as well. Now then, back to the kind of TAR program we all know and love...can't wait for the next one.
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Native_texan
Member
08-24-2004
| Thursday, December 15, 2005 - 9:35 am
Mr. Weaver was killed on February 4, 2004. The marriage application was filed on December 10, 2005. According to my math, that is a slightly more than 22 months, not 18. My question is how long is she supposed to wait to remarry?
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Auntiemike
Member
09-17-2001
| Thursday, December 15, 2005 - 9:43 am
If Linda Weaver has found a new love then more power to her. She shouldn't have to be alone the rest of her life. As for mourning: The kids may mourn, off and on, for quite a while, as will Linda. That doesn't mean that life does not go on. My father died 27 years ago and I still have moments of mourning of 'what might have been'. My mother has never remarried but then that is her choice. She certainly has had a full life. His death impacted my sister, 14 at the time, a lot differently and she still deals with things regarding his quick passing. I guess my point is that this is all very personal and different for each individual involved and there is no right or correct time that anyone can hold as a standard.
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Roxip
Member
01-29-2004
| Thursday, December 15, 2005 - 10:46 am
I don't begrudge Ms. Weaver her happiness. I just think that the fact that she has moved on to a new relationship was not portrayed on the show, instead she was "edited" to be the sympathetic, helpless female having to try and fill the duties of both parents and head of household. That was their "role" on the show. It just hits me wrong though. Of course, the Race was filmed a while back (during the summer?) so the timing of her actually engagement is different from when we are watching her emote all over the screen. And now her fiance certainly has a sense of her true personality...LOL!
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Thursday, December 15, 2005 - 10:57 am
I have always laughed at that 'they must have had a happy marriage if she remarried so quickly' line. what are you going to say? 'man, you sure didn't miss your dead spouse much??!!
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Spitfire
Member
07-18-2002
| Thursday, December 15, 2005 - 11:09 am
My cousin who lost her husband tragically and left behind a 4 month old daughter started dating 6 months later. 5 years later they are still together. At first I was kinda shocked by this but I realized that it's not really a situation you can judge because it's not happening to you. Also I realized that this was helping her move on and that was a good thing.
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Costacat
Member
07-15-2000
| Thursday, December 15, 2005 - 11:12 am
Thank you Rox!! That is EXACTLY my point. Whether they were edited or not, they were portrayed that way. And I bet that's why they were selected. And although I know many who've met and married in a very short time, I'd bet she'd already moved on while this was being filmed. Since she wore her future husband's name on her shirt.
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Karuuna
Board Administrator
08-31-2000
| Thursday, December 15, 2005 - 11:28 am
Geez, that poor woman. I guess I will never understand the kind of negativity toward her. To me, she's just a schmuck like the rest of us, trying to live her life the best she can. It's obvious to me that all reality shows *edit* to some degree. They play up negative characterisitics on some people, positive ones on others (although that is more rare). it's their *job* to create drama. That's why in virtually every episode, it always looks like the last two teams in each leg are neck and neck; even if in reality they were hours apart. That's the obvious example, and I'm sure the characterization of people goes on as well. Granted, they work with what they have, but it's obviously slanted. I can't find it in myself to think we ever know what a person is *truly* like through their portrayal on one of these shows. I am more than aware that whatever i think is just a guess and speculation. As for remarrying right away, it's not about how much you miss someone; and I would never think that it means that you didn't miss your spouse if you marry within a coupla years or even a coupla months. To me it means that you are incredibly blessed with a great ability to love and to have found someone else who loves you.
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Brenda1966
Member
07-03-2002
| Thursday, December 15, 2005 - 11:29 am
Ladytex -- tell us about the Fishbowl! I can't seem to stream any of those kinds of things through my work PC.
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Stopjustwatchin
Member
08-19-2005
| Thursday, December 15, 2005 - 12:16 pm
Thank you Rox!! That is EXACTLY my point. Whether they were edited or not, they were portrayed that way. And I bet that's why they were selected. And although I know many who've met and married in a very short time, I'd bet she'd already moved on while this was being filmed. Since she wore her future husband's name on her shirt. Those are my thoughts exactly Costa..and Rox! I don't have a problem or doubt she can move on this "quickly"; however, my thoughts are that you can't have things both ways. You can't play the 'woe is me' card that the whole family played the whole race, externally; and be completely fine and in love/engaged to a new man, internally. However, there is one thing we can take from this: we may BEGIN to have at least part of the answer we've been longing for the majority of race. (Why the Weaver hate..for those who aren't sure what I'm talking about). Maybe, it's the tip of an iceberg, maybe. And, yes, btw -- someone spill the beans on Fishbowl. Maybe we'll have another piece of the puzzle.
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Puzzled
Member
08-27-2001
| Thursday, December 15, 2005 - 12:32 pm
It's been months since the filming, so there's no way of knowing if Linda was engaged at the time (not that it's our business). She didn't do the "poor widow" editing. In any case, after about a year of terrible suffering from her loss and also hurting for her children, why shouldn't she vent? From what I saw, I doubt that I would ever want to be her friend, but if she can move on, I wish her luck.
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Texannie
Member
07-16-2001
| Thursday, December 15, 2005 - 1:43 pm
As for remarrying right away, it's not about how much you miss someone; and I would never think that it means that you didn't miss your spouse if you marry within a coupla years or even a coupla months. To me it means that you are incredibly blessed with a great ability to love and to have found someone else who loves you. Or just too afraid to be alone....... perhaps i better leave this discussion, it hits too close to home. my dad started dating 4 months after my mother's sudden death and married 10 months later. i heard all the platitudes and frankly think they are bs........
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Brenda1966
Member
07-03-2002
| Thursday, December 15, 2005 - 2:05 pm
I agree Texannie -- some people just can't stand to be alone. Not making any judgements on that - it just is what it is. I suspect that someone so fundamentally Christian as they are would want a man as the head of the household so remarriage would be highly valued. Maybe this will take the pressure off of Rollie which is a good thing.
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Karuuna
Board Administrator
08-31-2000
| Thursday, December 15, 2005 - 2:18 pm
Texannie, I'm sure that's true for some people. But that it is true for some, does not mean it is true for everyone.
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Roxip
Member
01-29-2004
| Thursday, December 15, 2005 - 2:26 pm
I would think it would be truer for a man to remarry quicker than a woman...you know how helpless a lot of them are...LOL!
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Karen
Member
09-07-2004
| Thursday, December 15, 2005 - 2:32 pm
My favourite quote is from Einstein, and he says, "Gravity cannot be held responsible for people falling in love". You never know when or where or how or why you're going to find that perfect someone, I'm sure Ma Weaver is no exception. So what if she's happy? So what if she was portrayed on TV as a helpless widow? So what if the vast majority couldn't stand watching them on TV? The only thing that matters now -- the ONLY thing -- is that they aren't on our TVs anymore, and we can move on to discussing something other than this family. Puhleaze. I don't even dare remind people that there is an entire thread, actually called, "The Weaver Family" that this could all be discussed in. That thread has been neglected all season, in favour of spewing it all here. /rant over.
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Costacat
Member
07-15-2000
| Thursday, December 15, 2005 - 3:13 pm
I'll continue the spew... I don't deny her happiness. But Stop said what I've said several times... you can't have your cake and eat it, too. I am DYING to find out the scoop... will all be revealed on Fishbowl? And who knows what already? Come on... SPILL!!!
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Lexie_girl
Member
07-30-2004
| Thursday, December 15, 2005 - 3:52 pm
Lexie_Cat headbutts Costacat...
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Jimmer
Member
08-30-2000
| Thursday, December 15, 2005 - 4:16 pm
LOL - I'm enjoying the spewing so spew away! I'm more than happy if she has found happiness with someone else and I don't want to be judgemental about the timeframe. It just doesn't synch well with her portrayal on the show.
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Costacat
Member
07-15-2000
| Thursday, December 15, 2005 - 4:26 pm
Costacat makes fat tail at Lexie, then runs onto the couch and purrs... And headbutts Jimmer, since, well, it's da truth!
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Stopjustwatchin
Member
08-19-2005
| Thursday, December 15, 2005 - 7:04 pm
I just have one further point that I need to bring up. I will give anyone who wants to bring up the fact that Mrs. Weaver wasn't engaged at filming; however, why were they still sorta playing both sides of the fence in the interview yesterday on The Early Show. Definitely present day. Things that make you go hmmm.
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Brenda1966
Member
07-03-2002
| Thursday, December 15, 2005 - 8:00 pm
To switch gears -- I recognized the starting line for the next TAR. Does anyone know when they filmed it? It's always so fun to see they filmed in your back yard -- I wish I had stumbled upon them. ** spoiler about the location to follow *** They start at Red Rocks ampitheater outside of Denver. I hope they make them run around the city a bit before heading to the airport.
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Tishala
Member
08-01-2000
| Friday, December 16, 2005 - 10:42 am
I watched some of TAR on Game Show Network last night...it's the season with Colin and Christie, Brandon and whatshername, Chip and Kim, and Marla and Charla. Remember them?! Well, watching this last night, I was struck by how pale the Florida team's actions were compared to those of Charla and Marla...and yet Charla and Marla were just adored on here. So maybe it's perspective.
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Auntiemike
Member
09-17-2001
| Friday, December 16, 2005 - 11:23 am
Interesting you say that Tish. I was going to post this one word yesterday and then got interrupted. So, I will post it today. Perspective
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