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Biscottiii
Member
05-29-2004
| Saturday, December 22, 2007 - 2:57 am
Hi Chy! Yes, I was reading your comments - agreed with much of what you said. Really appreciated them!!! I was going through some rough times (house falling apart with mold/leaks) and just wasn't up to jumping into the conversation then. Sorry, I should have said something to you. I dated/lived with a Chinese guy for about 5 yrs until I was about 25. He was well educated, as well, but I finally had to get out of the relationship because it got rather overbearing. His parents had come via Canada so he was the 1st generation born in America. I also had a couple of other Male neighbor friends that were, at the same time, students from China studying and working here in the states. All 3 men were very nice & generous, just clearly in need of being in control of any conversation, activities, etc. So many of the things you were pointing out about the parent/child upbringing really struck home with me, in looking back on that past relationship and the ways he acted (I always chalked it up to "Control Freaking"). And I always was acting like Christina, trying to make the peace, keeping him mollified. But much of what you said helped to sort out things, in my mind, all these years later. Still, I sure hope Ronald isn't a "time bomb coming". I think he would/will be devastated and feel dishonored to see how some of his personality plays out on national TV. And he's only acting in the rigid role he has always done. He HAS tried to be cheerful, like singing "Danny Boy" goofy on the bridge bike run in Ireland. Trying hard, despite the pain & fear of that hernia putting them out of the race. Whether they win or not, I just hope it comes off 'nicely' (edit wise) and he's able to relate better to his daughter that truly loves him. Otherwise, she wouldn't have asked HIM to share the lifetime experience of the race with her. Again, thanks Chy for your helpful input!
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Biscottiii
Member
05-29-2004
| Saturday, December 22, 2007 - 3:02 am
PS - Chy that is so rough in trying for you to even see the shows. So hopeful that you didn't miss that first episode! The look on that Donkey's face Braying (cussing in donkey talk) at them! That was a screamer no matter how many times I've rewatched. Maybe you should ask Santa for a TV - all your own.
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Biscottiii
Member
05-29-2004
| Saturday, December 22, 2007 - 3:10 am
Gurliegirl, I saw the The Fifth Dimension a couple of times in concert at the Seattle Center. Still remember that "Marry Me Bill" [Wedding Bell Blues] song. What wonderful performers! Looking forward to Sunday.
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Chy
Member
07-19-2003
| Saturday, December 22, 2007 - 5:51 pm
Biscottiii, thank you very much for your replies that's so filled with emotion! Don't worry about not answering sometimes, specially when you were with your own troubles! I did see Ronald biking and singing Danny Boy with his own verse. You're right. It seems he'll really like to be thought of as worldly, tough and most of all, fun-loving. He was really being himself when he was brow-beating Chris or every time he decides to "let Chris make her own mistakes"(I love that line, NOT!). He's probably pretty hurt watching himself these days. (I do have a tv, it's the dvr and vcr I'm lacking.) As a relatively young girl, I'd told my mom I was not going to marry any Chinese man since every one of them around me seemed overbearing! So I ended up with this guy who's grandfather came over from Italy in 1910s. Before we were married, whenever I visited, they all made me feel like the Most Honorable Guest. .... Let's just say it's completely different once I am a member of the family. My fil doesn't care so much about my opinions any more,(We used to have lively discussions about world afairs and such....) I should just go see what I could help in the kitchen. -- Not that I don't like to be in the kitchen, but that's not my own kitchen. That's where I get told about doing the dishes too slow, wasting water or how it's "not attractive to wear that in Church"!! ..... Till this day I let my mom think other wise though. She's too far and old to worry about me. I just hope my own DDs would be free from overbearing men and in laws!
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Biscottiii
Member
05-29-2004
| Saturday, December 22, 2007 - 7:28 pm
How interesting Chy! "seemed overbearing!" Yes, my BF's parents were always coldly polite to me but clearly they didn't approve. I am Caucasian and he was oldest son of a pure Chinese family. Less than a year after we broke up he married another woman. I took the money I would have had to spend on a large wedding and took my Mom for 3 weeks in Europe. Thankfully! We ended up with some wonderful experiences and memories traveling 3rd class and staying mostly in pensions, less expensive hotels, or hostels. Got to experience the more down to earth side and real people, rather that staying in the fancier hotels. (Probably one reason I'm so addicted to TAR lol.) Interestingly, later on I was visiting with my middle aged apt managers just chatting about the broken relationship. Lady said "Bisc, you are so LUCKY that you didn't marry him!" Her husband yelled from the living room "You've got that right!!!" Huh? They had known him, while he was still living there with me. Then they had transferred to manage another complex in the wealthy part of town (a newer & larger complex) before returning to work back in my complex. Turned out former BF and his new wife were living in that other complex. Apt Managers got dozens of calls from HIM each month to come and fix this or fix that, nothing too small to demand they come fix it - right now! Husband said former BF couldn't even screw a shower nozzle on tighter by himself or screw back on a knob in a cupboard. He treated them like servants! I know he was quite capable and very handy doing repairs himself, when we were together. Thank heavens, it wasn't ME spending years getting treated like the servant and being browbeaten. You have my sympathies. Holiday dinners with the in-laws doesn't sound like much fun!
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Tntitanfan
Member
08-03-2001
| Sunday, December 23, 2007 - 9:48 am
Can you believe this show is FINALLY BAck on tonight, and I have to be away from home until pretty late?!? I will probably be up until midnight watching it, but watching it I WILL be!
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Kitt
Member
09-06-2000
| Sunday, December 23, 2007 - 2:33 pm
It seems like ages, although it only had one week off! I can't remember what the trailers said but I'm looking forward to it.
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Seamonkey
Moderator
09-07-2000
| Sunday, December 23, 2007 - 3:58 pm
I just about forgot.. of course I have my DVRs set, but I still have to go enter Wilson's game.. who ARE these people? I forget!!
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Cricket
Member
08-05-2002
| Sunday, December 23, 2007 - 5:46 pm
Please tell me most of us know who the Fifth Dimension were. Please. I know the Fifth Dimension, Gurliegirl. Loved them and had all their albums. Marilyn McCoo is awesome! Can't wait for tonight's show.
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Kc103
Member
07-13-2004
| Sunday, December 23, 2007 - 7:10 pm
The Fifth Dimension had a lot of good songs. In fact I just heard "Age of Aquarius" a little while ago on the radio. I saw them live once along with Sergio Mendes & Brazil 66.
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Roxip
Member
01-29-2004
| Friday, December 28, 2007 - 10:02 am
Good morning. I was just feeling lonely so I thought I would type this on TAR site so that it wouldn't look so empty. Yeah! Only two more nights until we get the show. On my TIVO for next week (January 5?) it says the Race will start at either 7:30 or 8:30 (sorry, it was late when I was flipping through my scheduler). Did anybody else catch that? Is the last part going to be 1-1/2 hours?
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Tntitanfan
Member
08-03-2001
| Friday, December 28, 2007 - 2:24 pm
My TV Guide for Jan. 6th has TAR starting at 7:00 as usual - or as close to usual as the carry-over from 60 Minutes gives us each week!
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Roxip
Member
01-29-2004
| Friday, December 28, 2007 - 3:30 pm
Does anyone really watch 60 Minutes?
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Wilsonatmd
Member
01-23-2001
| Friday, December 28, 2007 - 4:24 pm
Roxip- I think it's influx a little because they don't know the official schedule for Wild Card week yet. CBS will have an AFC Wild Card game on Sunday, but they don't know who and they don't know if they have the early or late game. If you want my guess- I think CBS will have the early game (1:00 EST) Sunday (Pittsburgh/Jacksonville). NBC will probably broadcast the San Diego (vs either Tennessee or Cleveland) game early Saturday (4:15 EST) so they can have the New York Giants/Tampa game (for the NY market-plus it's NBC's last game of the season) that night (8:00 EST). This leaves the Seattle/(vs Washington, Minnesota, or New Orleans depending on their results) for FOX on Sunday, which has to be a late game (4:15 EST) since it's in Seattle.
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Biscottiii
Member
05-29-2004
| Friday, December 28, 2007 - 10:08 pm
This is ONE Seattle-ite who won't be watching any games! Just chomping at the bit, waiting for the Amazing Race.
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Webchiq
Member
07-11-2005
| Saturday, December 29, 2007 - 2:20 am
Is it lonely to be the only one? Go Seahawks! The game will be done in time for TAR.
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Roxip
Member
01-29-2004
| Saturday, December 29, 2007 - 7:57 am
I don't watch the Cowboys either so I understand where you are coming from, Biscotti.
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Chiliwilli
Member
09-04-2006
| Saturday, December 29, 2007 - 2:03 pm
Televized sports is a waste of good air time that could be used for something interesting. Unless it's rodeo. Rodeo is a good televized sport.
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Twinkie
Member
09-24-2002
| Saturday, December 29, 2007 - 3:51 pm
Personally I love watching pro football. Only pro. That's the only sport I watch other than the Olympics.
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Chiliwilli
Member
09-04-2006
| Saturday, December 29, 2007 - 3:57 pm
But we all already know you're a sick, sick woman, Twinkie. I mean, geez, look at all that kinky stuff you were thinking about buying your hubby for Christmas. I saw those pics. LOL
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Twinkie
Member
09-24-2002
| Saturday, December 29, 2007 - 6:03 pm
Of course you saw those pics. You posted them, ya perv. LOL
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Wilsonatmd
Member
01-23-2001
| Saturday, December 29, 2007 - 6:16 pm
you should watch hurling...that's a brutal sport... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r4Uke5C73uk http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tmbnLkoQehc Austrailian Rules Football too.... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TiGoqObb0YQ
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Chiliwilli
Member
09-04-2006
| Saturday, December 29, 2007 - 6:26 pm
Hurling? Isn't that like throwing up or something? That's a sport now, huh?
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Twinkie
Member
09-24-2002
| Saturday, December 29, 2007 - 7:30 pm
Isn't hurling similar to lacrosse?
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Tntitanfan
Member
08-03-2001
| Saturday, December 29, 2007 - 9:12 pm
Are you sure you don't mean "curling?" Now there's a strange sport indeed -
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